Well I've decided to look into adoption. Threw my entire life I've known I would adopt at some point. If I had biological kids of my own or not I knew I'd adopt as well. I've been researching on and off for several years but I find most adoption info confusing and scary. I also don't know how the heck I'd be able to afford it. Why is it so hard to become a parent?!?
All we're trying to do is offer our love and forever home to an infant in need, you'd think people would take advantage of that offer. Frustration seems to be my mood today, sorry everyone. Sometimes it just feels like my dream will never happen. No more road blocks! Now, enough of my cruddy mood :)
I'd love to hear from parents that have recently adopted. I've researched many facilities/agencies but I really don't know what I should be looking for first. Any advice/guidance is VERY welcomed and appreciated!!
Maybe this is going to be my wonderful start to my family........
We were also so disappointed and honestly sick to our stomachs when we started researching adoption and found out the costs involved for private adoption. Although we still may pursue it at some point in our lives we found embryo adoption to be a better option for us at this point. It was considerably cheaper and gave us the option of experiencing pregnancy together. May be worth you looking into this option as well, feel free to e-mail me with any questions regarding this, my contact info is on my blog:) Whatever you decide wishing you and your husband the best of luck in this new journey!
ReplyDeleteHi, Monica.
ReplyDeleteHere from L&F. My husband and I adopted our daughter (now 9) and our son (now 7) domestically and have open adoptions in both cases. If you have any specific questions, feel free to contact me -- my email addy is on my blog.
My best to you on your journey :-). It CAN be done and things DO fall into place.
Here from LFCA. We researched adoption and started the process though in the end we did not adopt. I found the book Beating the Adoption Oddsby Dru Groves and Cynthia Martin Groves very helpful in understanding the different adoption paths (though I hated the book's title!).
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to give you quick my 2 cents. After unsuccessful iui's and ivf's we were ready to adopt. Just when we were going to make our move someone suggested embryo adoption.
ReplyDeleteThere are lots of different options out there for that. And they vary by price. Unfortunately I do not have much info about rest of them, but we went through clinic and total was with legal fees and meds and stuff about 4000$. And we are pregnant!
What a great experience it have been.
Let me know if you would like to know more about our journey!
It depends somewhat on your tolerance level. If you want absolutely no contact with birth parents, go international. You can do the same with domeatic, although it's a little harder. We decided to fost-adopt. We've been placed with a 7 month old (today!!).
ReplyDeleteWe too were shocked by the prices for adoption, especially since we wanted several kids. We do have to put up with more bureaucracy and yes, with our situation the birth family can clean up their act and the baby can go home. We also don't mind an open relationship with the family if it's safe. But eventually we will be able to keep one (or more), it's not costing us the price of a sedan, and we can say we did something good for society. And in the meantime, we get to have kids in the house :)
If you'd like to know more about fost-adopt, you can e-mail me.
I found a wonderful blog written by Ellen Glazer at fertilityauthority.com. She is addressing some of the biggest myths about adoption and is SO right about many of them.
ReplyDeleteOf course what you will feel comfortable with is a very personal issue. Adoption is not cheap, but we spent just a little more on our adoption then we did on two rounds of IVF. The diffence was, we had a child at the end of the adoption.
Just one thing to keep in mind, embryo adoption or traditional adoption, your child will not be biologically your own and will probably want to know about that part of themselves at some point. Will you be able to provide that info with embryo adoption?
We had a wonderful experience and continue to have a wonderful relationship with the birth parents. I know it doesn't always happen that way, but it can and does happen. Feel free to email me missellie123@hotmail.com.
Joy, regarding about EA. Our clinic is our middle man. If they move they have to let them know. If we move the same thing. If they have in the family some huge genetic health issues they have to let clinic know and they will inform us. And the other way around. It all depends what is in the contract between the donor and us. In our contract states that kids after age of 18 could meet their brothers if they wish.
ReplyDeleteWe have their family's health history right now.